It was late summer when we met, on a patio jutting out onto the Pacific.The night was still warm as I sipped my Gewürztraminer and asked him about his exciting career.He’s just not ready to involve himself in real-time dating with people he may connect with online.There are a multitude of reasons why this happens, but at the core, he is not ready or able to embark in a substantive relationship, regardless of what his profile says.Whether it’s online therapy, social media or online dating, everyone deserves to chat with the humans they believe they are connecting with.

Just Looking He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen.

For this article I used the descriptions of women who have shared their online dating experiences with me to describe 11 types of (heterosexual) men who are drawn to Internet dating.

I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons.

Rather, he moves from one online-created connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and barely if ever have to leave the house.

Internet dating enables him not to engage in a meaningful way.For the one who’s just found out what’s happening, it’s usually a big deal. For the one who’s doing it, they may think it’s not doing any harm.