Don’t just assume your child knows the difference; tell them as often as you can.
Make sure to teach your children from an early age the difference between dating and sex. Help your teen understand that dating is about getting to know the other person emotionally, not just physically.
Suggest other things to do with someone rather than have sex.
It may seem silly, but many times sex comes up as an option because teens are bored and have nothing else to do or think about. If they stay busy enough, they’ll probably end up having to say no less. If your teen just brushes off the issue without making their opinions clear, they will face the same problem over and over again. While they may want to give reasons, but they shouldn’t have to. Even if your child has already had sex, don’t let up on teaching them to say no.
You should also stress that having sex is always important and special, not just their first time.
While it’s good to teach abstinence, you should also make your child aware of safe sex practices.
Dating is a time of social experimentation for teens.
You want them to listen to your opinion, yet at the same time feel they are making up their own mind.
But it can also be a confusing time and a difficult time for parents too. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist with New York Presbyterian Hospital, has some advice. Your relationship with your partner is a model for how your teen will behave with others. Being manipulated, verbally put down, pushed or slapped and kept isolated from other relationships are all signs of an abusive relationship. Tell them they need to be honest and clear in communications. Make them think seriously about what sexual intimacy really means to them.
Teen dating can be a wonderful and fun time where self confidence is built up, and dating techniques are learned. Attorney General reports that 38 percent of date rape victims are girls between the age of 14 and 17. Teach them how to date, how to have respect for one another and how to protect themselves from emotional and physical hurt. Your relationship for your child speaks far louder than anyone’s words. Help them pay attention to the voice inside that says, “I’m uncomfortable in this situation and don’t want to do this.” Teach them to trust their judgment. Tell your sons that having sex does not make them a man and tell your daughters that having sex does not make them cool. Make sure both your son and daughter understand that, and that they should come to you or another parent/teacher/counselor if they feel at all threatened or oppressed by their boyfriend or girlfriend. “I’m not sure…” from a girl can mean “I just need to be pushed or pressured some more before I say yes” to her date. Tell boys if they hear “No” then proceeding anyway is rape. Tell boys they are not expected to try a million different ways to get sex.
Suddenly, hormones are raging, romantic feelings are developing, and, of course, it doesn’t stop there.
Before you know it, your teen may be entering the dating world.Dating is the time to learn about the person inside, to discuss likes and dislikes, goals and aspirations.