Last week I answered a question from a woman who called herself “Confused in Colorado”. Clearly he liked flirting with her, but was not ready to go to the next level. And his behavior let her know that – since he was not asking her out and declined her offers.Her question was about a guy named Jake who seemed interested and gave her his number, but never asked her out. That means, don’t call him, don’t text or email him and don’t ask him out. See, if a man is interested in you, no matter how shy he may be, he will ask you out, take you on a date, call again, take you out again, etc.Or it could signal something more troublesome if the profile's also low on written details, cautions Laurie Davis, founder of online dating consultancy e Flirt Expert and author of 2. Most online dating sites allow you space to say more about yourself, in addition to answering the form questions and prompts."If your match skipped this section, again, you should question whether or not he's actually looking for a relationship," says Davis.They texted a lot and he “talked” about going out, but never did ask her. In fact, Jake told her the timing wasn’t right (here’s that post about how to understand men.) Below, I have explained why a woman should not take the role of initiator at the very beginning of dating. Now, if a man initiates, of course mirror his actions – return his call, text or email. For some women, this idea is very hard because today men and women seem so equal. Well you can do it of course, but you won’t find out what he’d do on his own, to pursue you – and as a dating coach that is most often the measure of how much he likes you. Talking about a date is not the same as GOING on a date. Use this to help you understand what actions you should take with dating. Following his lead by returning his calls, texts, emails and saying yes to a date if you are interested – that is your job as the follower. This follower role is only true for the initial phase of dating – the first 6 dates or so.At the start of dating, there is only one way to know if a man is interested in you or just blowing smoke with his flirtations. This is where talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. In ballroom dancing, there is only one leader and only one follower. After that, things tend to balance out and you can start taking turns initiating. She should stop texting and flirting and move on to find a man who is ready to date and wants a relationship.
Women kill me trying to "be nice" and "be sweet" and "not be rude" all the time. Next time he does that you say "you know, you are so narcissistic it's ridiculous. Every topic we or anyone else brings up, you manage to turn it into a discussion about yourself. In my vast experience at online dating, I’ve learned quite a few things about men and how they respond to me.